You know, something occurred to me while reading a post by autie-baeddel-cat on binary-vs-nonbinary trans people:
CAMAB trans peoples’ gender seems to be decided by the cis beholder. When a guy is horny, we’re women. When he’s with his friends and wants to prove his straightness, he’ll call us men. We’re women when we get arrested for being topless, but then they’ll put us in a men’s jail. When it comes to womens’ spaces, or services such as mammograms, we’ll be seen as men so we can be excluded. In a sexual context we’re hypersexual women, but in the context of relationships we’re the undesirable ‘other’. We can be made into whatever cis people want us to be.
CAFAB trans peoples’ gender seems to be handled differently, it appears as if they have more control over what hat to wear. Want to join women-only spaces? Grew up as a girl. Want to join the club of cis dudes? Wear your manhat. Need access to a ‘womens health clinic’? Biology.(despite trans women being refused mammograms) Conversing with women? Wear your manhat to get more speaking time and have your words taken more seriously. Heck, join a womens’ college! CAMAB trans people accuse you of misusing your manhat? Make them seem like aggressive men by switching to your ‘female-socialized’ hat. All of this is usually not done through concious malice, but more as instinctive behaviour. It’s very human to utilize what advantages you have.
What stands out most, is with whom the agency to ‘switch hats’ lies. For CAMAB trans people, that power lays with others. Whereas with CAFAB trans people, it’d appear they have some degree of control themselves over things.
And to return to the post that sparked this train of thought: it seems the ability to switch hats doesn’t differ much between trans men and CAFAB nonbinary people, making the distinction between the two a rather moot point for the purpose of certain analyses.
I’m not entirely sure if I’m missing some angles here, I’m mostly just chasing a ball of thoughts bouncing through my mind. Also, this is absolutely not meant to erase cissexism that CAFAB trans people face, I realize tons of the advantages that come from ‘switching hats’ comes at the cost of undermining your own gender identity. Being trans, whatever your assignment, is never a cakewalk. I also realize trans people are very diverse and might not all fit the described situations. I’m open to the possibility that I might be completely off here. This post is more meant as a “huh, that’s odd" than as a declaration or accusation. It’s just that it seems the power to switch hats differs across birth assignments.
Yeah, this describes what I was kinda getting at last night, but I couldn’t articulate it well.